Monthly Archives: May 2006

Invite someone into your life.

When you plan a date, plan to participate in interests and activities that you enjoy. Invite someone into your life. Be willing to let the people you date experience you, in the places in which you are the most comfortable doing the things that you most love to do.

Dates are a time to create opportunities to do the things you most enjoy. On dates, listen carefully to your inner voice(s) and to the person you are with. Experience who the other person is in their heart and soul.

If you enjoy good food, explore interesting restaurants and out-of-the-way eateries that ignite your enjoyment and share them with new people.

If you are moved by things of beauty make a list of beautiful places and interesting buildings in your area to visit on a date. If you want to attract passion you must be passionate!

If you are a patron of the arts frequent your local art galleries, community theatres and musician hang-outs. Most communities have art festivals, art walks, craft shows; small galleries have meet the artist nights with great munchies and they are usually free; high schools and colleges often have musical and theatrical productions that rival the pros.

If you love to walk or hike, take some time and mark out some city walks to take just as if you were a tourist getting to know your city. Or grab a book on local hiking trails and keep it handy.

You get the idea!

Remember: Dating is the time that you are checking out the one you are dating. You are observing, listening, and getting a sense of who he or she is. Not visa versa!!

Be actively engaged in the life that you love, and you will more readily attract the love of your life!

Only you can make it happen!

Your life will not be “better” if you are in a relationship.

We take ourselves with us wherever we go…especially into love

A successful, committed relationship depends upon being ready:

  • Physically
  • Emotionally
  • Financially
  • Legally
  • Spiritually

for the life and relationship that you want. Get your personal
work done first!

Be sure you…

  • Spend enough time clarifying your personal Vision, Requirements, Needs and Wants
  • Spend all the time it takes to answer the questions: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get what I want?
  • Focus on developing and practicing dating skills.
  • Be as ready as you can be to meet your ideal mate and create the life and the love life that affirms and esteems your best self!

Only you can make it happen!

A New and Essential Perspective On Divorce

Join Dr. Jackie and Sam Margulies, Ph.D., J.D. and the author of his second book on divorce, “A Man’s Guide to a Civilized Divorce.”

Dr. Margulies is a renowned divorce negotiator and mediator and walks Dr. Jackie through his step-by-step approach to divorce from the initiation to the signing of the final papers.

This conversation offers solid information and advice about having a peaceful divorce, managing lawyers and the legal system, the emotional issues associated with divorce and lots more!

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Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Dr. Jackie

What is an Apology?

It is highly likely that in the course of relationships with associates, friends, family members and your significant other you will do or say something or not do or say something that will cause someone hurt.

Reacting to the words and actions of others is normal, natural and necessary when we are involved and invested in a relationship with another, regardless of the nature or structure of that relationship.

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