Monthly Archives: February 2007

Tag… I’m IT!

It seems that there is a game of ‘Blog Tag’ going around in which bloggers share 5 things about themselves that relatively few people know, and then tag 5 other bloggers to be "IT."

I’ve been tagged by Sarah Schultz, a Certified Personal Coach and your "go-to resource" for Quarterlifers!

Thanks, Sarah!

… so here goes!

5 things about me that relatively few people know:

1. While in St. Petersburg, Russia in the winter of 2003 I became separated from my tour group at the Summer Palace of Catherine The Great. I managed to get onto the grounds (through armed guards holding cardboard signs that read "No Ticket No Entrance") and found myself in the back of the palace. I could see my group through French doors with double paned glass walking down an inside corridor. I shoved my way "in" through the EXIT in the back of the Palace where the magnificent terraced gardens and fountains were. Everyone was running after me, yelling in Russian and trying to grab an arm or a shoulder. I just kept walking faster and faster saying "I want my tour guide, I want my tour guide," It was a harrowing experience! Fortunately I didn’t wind up in Siberia!

2. My life-long dream as a child was to be an orchestra conductor. In the late 60′s, the music department of the University I was attending wouldn’t let me into the conducting class…because I was a girl.

3. When FORD launched the Mustang Mach 1, I was working in the body shop of a FORD dealership. I had never driven a "stick shift" so I couldn’t get the cars from the body shop to the paint shop. One of the wrecker drivers (we didn’t call them tow truck drivers in those days) taught me how to drive a stick shift and that was all she wrote…as they say. I loved those cars. You couldn’t pry me out of the Mach 1s!

4. Through middle school and all the way through high school I bowled in a league. I had a 180 average!

5. I have an 8 year old, 115 lb Bernese Mountain Dog named Sophie. She is my best friend and companion; and she never left my side for many months after my husband died. Everyone loves Sophie. She is smart, very sweet and thinks she is a lap dog! AND she is hand-command trained and voice-command trained. If you have a dog who weighs more than you, I’d recommend it! Everyone just thinks she is an easy-going, old girl.

Now it’s my turn to tag!

Syl Leduc, Executive Coach, Leadership Development Strategist, Small Business Specialist, Published Author, Columnist, Speaker, AND one of those truly nice people in the world I am blessed to be able to call "friend.

Maryon Stewart, is one of the UK’s leading experts on nutrition. Maryon has published internationally recognized research on PMS and menopause. She regularly appears on UK television and radio; has had regular columns in many publications including "House and Garden", `Good Health, "the Daily Mail" and the "Sunday Express Magazine;" has published 24 titles and sold more than a million books; and she was voted one of the most influential women in the UK by "Good Housekeeping Magazine." This is a Must-read Blog!

Susan Joyce, is my personal friend and the premier blogger of the online job search world helps people use the Internet safely and effectively to find a job. Check this out!

Wayne Kelly my friend, mentor and favorite radio show-insider! Wanna be on the radio? This blogger tells all in a very usable and understandable way. Tell Wayne Dr. Jackie sent you!

Bill Weiss my Web Developer at SpinTheWeb.com. His blog focuses on promoting OpenSourced and affordable internet solutions and best practices. Be sure to tell him Dr. Jackie sent you.

Whose Job Is It Anyway?

Accept that it’s your job to educate your partner about what makes you feel most loved.

Feeling loved, that is feeling respected, valued and celebrated, is the result of hearing your partner’s words and experiencing your partner’s actions consistently over time.

Feeling loved or happy or satisfied or competent is sourced by each of us inside ourselves.

Love is not a feeling you feel. It is the result of a combination of words and actions that you interpret to mean love.

It is our job to help our partners know what loving words and behaviors are to us. Don’t expect the man or woman who loves you to know what to do and say so that you feel loved. Let him or her know, specifically.

Some of us enjoy sending or receiving cards and flowers. Some appreciate behaviors like getting the car washed, taking the dog for a walk or initiating an evening out.

How do you like to be touched? Do you appreciate a bear hug? A gentle pat or soft kiss as your partner walks past? How do you express affection and sexual desire?

Do you let your partner know when s/he pleases or tickles you? Do you ask, in a very gentle and respectful way, for what you need and like?

Receiving and expressing touch, affection and desires of a sexual nature are very personal and as unique to you as your finger prints. It is our job to be as direct and candid as we can and really educate our partners about us and what we want/need and how to meet those legitimate needs.

What words resonate deep inside your heart? What behaviors tickle you or move you?

Take some time to deepen your awareness of what you need and want to hear and experience that means you are loved. Ask your partner these questions and become an expert on what makes him or her feel loved.

Until next time remember…

Only YOU can make it Happen!

Dr Jackie Black Newsletter


Hello. I am Dr. Jackie Black, your Couples in Trouble Expert. Since 1999, I have guided many formerly frustrated and desperately unhappy Couples in Trouble to happiness, closeness and having more fun together than they ever imagined. My years of experience combined with your commitment to your personal growth will enable you to welcome the results you have always wanted and never believed were possible in your marriage.

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