Monthly Archives: December 2009

War Inside Can’t Create Peace Outside

What does it mean to be nurturing? Who is nurturing? Who is not and why not?

The very concepts of nurturing and peace (inner peace; peaceful; peacefulness) mean very different things to different people and to people in different settings.

The belief in Western civilization that the human beings are selfish individuals who are chiefly governed by self-interest is not universally true. It is not the case in many societies living outside Western civilization.

This belief reflects the nature of individuals when they must adapt to living in the cultures of Western civilization, rather than the way individuals evolved to adapt to living in the natural world. Indeed, in the natural world in which we evolved, we could not have survived as rugged individuals alienated from each other. Our success as a species rested on our ability to collaborate and share.

I just returned from more than five weeks in South Africa. While the main purpose of my trip was business-related, my experiences were deeply personal and profoundly informing and enriching.

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Invitation to Take Stock and to Design Your Love Life

It’s hard to believe that 2009 is almost over and 2010 is arriving very soon.

The end of the year is a good time to take stock; to examine where we’ve been; where we are now; and where we want to go next year.

I encourage you to spend some time exploring the various aspects of your life.

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Dating After 50—Be Sure About Where Your Vision Is Taking You

The last two weeks, we started exploring the four cornerstones of your inner guidance system:

  1. Needs and values; the external and internal structures of your life;
  2. Vision; what you want your life to be;
  3. Life purpose; your reason for being; and
  4. Mission; the daily choices and behaviors that put into action living on purpose with vision driven by needs and values

Why is this important in a series that focuses on Love and Relationships After 50?

  • Because you want to be certain that you are engaging in your life and in the dating process with integrity and with accurate information and full awareness about yourself;
  • Because a love relationship is most fulfilling and satisfying when it is in alignment with your needs/values, vision, life purpose and mission; and
  • Because when you live from your very being, you can genuinely love and be loved by another; you can know a love that grows out of choice.

We have explored Needs and Values. This week we are going to take a look at the Vision piece of your inner guidance system.

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Dating After 50—STOP Compromising Your Values

Last week we established that we all have needs, and our needs are legitimate. You have learned that you can meet some of your needs yourself; however, you cannot necessarily meet all of them. Some of your needs can, and must, be met by others.

What about values?

Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do, just because someone else that you cared about wanted you to?

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