Monthly Archives: May 2010

Acceptable Etiquette to Internet Dating

Internet dating is becoming more popular among singles of all ages throughout the world. There is a disturbing attitude among some Internet daters that courtesy, integrity and honor don’t apply on “the net.”

Here are some thoughts about common sense, courteous behaviors otherwise known as etiquette:

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Stop! Your Boundary Hurts Me

Ask Dr. Jackie:
Sometimes in a relationship there is a sticky dynamic where one party tries to set a boundary that is comfortable for them, but it feels exclusionary to the other person. As if they are being shut out or exiled. This can feel painful for the person who feels shut out. And of course it feels totally dysfunctional for the person who is setting the boundary. I would wager that quite a few relationships run into unexpected trouble around this issue. What’s your perspective on how to handle this? How would you recommend that someone in a relationship set a boundary without hurting the person you love most?

Dr. Jackie Answers:
One of the most problematic dynamics in a relationship occurs if I need or want something that doesn’t match for you; or worse, that negatively impacts you in some way.  Because you are not me and I am not you, there will be times in our relationship when we need or want different or divergent things.  Couples should expect this.

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Are You Sick and Tired of Always Paying?

Mature men and women who are dating have many questions about money. The most frequent question from men is how to avoid always picking up the tab.

There are four easy steps to learn and follow:

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Self-Esteem Doesn’t Just Happen–It gets Created Deliberately and Intentionally

Self-esteem is a term that many people toss around, and I bet that the vast majority of you don’t really understand what in the world Self esteem really means.

For a moment, I invite you to consider that Self-esteem–esteeming one’s Self–is really code for the conscious knowing that you are at choice every minute!

Self-esteem is your willingness and ability to honor your legitimate needs; to say your real “yes” and your real “no”; to set and maintain your boundaries; and to act on your own behalf.

Self esteem is the willingness and ability to positively impact, affect and influence people and events around you.

You have an inner guidance system that drives you and guides your choice-making whether you are aware of it or not. Your system includes:

  • Vision
  • Life-purpose
  • Mission
  • Needs/Values

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