Honor the Boundaries You Set

Dear Dr. Jackie: After 5 years together, my girlfriend and I broke-up. The thing is, I don’t hate her, but I just didn’t feel passion for her and that’s important for me. My ex-girlfriend calls me every now and then to hear my voice and asks to see...

How Do You Set Boundaries?

Let me say first, setting boundaries is not disrespectful, bad or wrong. In fact, emotionally healthy people set personal boundaries.   Educate people in your life about your boundaries. Calmly and respectfully inform them about how they can and cannot behave...

How Do Boundaries Work?

HOW DO BOUNDARIES WORK? We learn to set boundaries to protect two different parts of Self: Boundaries for our Outside Self, which protect our body and control distance and touch Boundaries for our Inside Self, which act as filters or blocks to protect our thinking,...

Why Are Boundaries Important?

If your life is filled with discord and you don’t feel that others respect you, it’s time to set your boundaries. Each of us experiences our reality in four ways: Body – what we look like Thinking – how we give meaning to incoming data Feelings...

What Are Boundaries?

If your life is filled with more of what you don’t want and not enough of what you do want, it’s time to set your boundaries.   Boundaries define a person’s sense of self (i.e., who he or she is as an individual). Setting boundaries makes others...