Monthly Archives: June 2011

Top 15 Tips for Enlightened Stepfamilies

Would you be surprised if I told you…

  • One of three Americans is now a stepparent, a stepchild, a stepsibling, or some other member of a stepfamily.
  • More than half of Americans today have been, are now or will eventually be in one or more step situations during their lives.

You became a stepfamily because one of you made a decision based on the belief that you could “do this” and that “this will be worth it to be with my Honey!” Those are powerful reasons that deserve your time, attention and energy.

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The Five Freedoms By Virginia Satir

Virginia Satir (1916-1988) was a pioneer in the field of Family Therapy and internationally acclaimed as a therapist, educator, and author. She was known for her special warmth and for her remarkable insight into human communication and self-esteem.

Based on her conviction that people are capable of continued growth, change and new understanding, her goal was to improve relationships and communication within the family unit. Virginia Satir stayed at the forefront of human growth and family therapy until her death in 1988.

In facilitating Couple’s Communication TeleDiscussions, I routinely provide The Five Freedoms in handout materials. No matter how many times I read them, I am always struck by the simplicity and powerfulness of Satir’s “Five Freedoms” and I am moved to a more connected place deep within myself.

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On Being Single

I bet you didn’t know there are 100+ million single men and women in the United States today.

What does being single mean to you?

Being single is not…

  • An affliction
  • A condition
  • An unfortunate state
  • A problem
  • Something that you need to change

Being single is not evidence …

…that you are not lovable

…that there is something wrong with you

…that you need to be better, different or more

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*More Than Gossip* Listen Free Online As Experts Explore: Honesty & Integrity Blurred

Join 4 Top Life, Love and Relationship Experts Dr. Jackie Black, Dr. Dar (Darshana Hawks), Christine Laureano and Lori Rubenstein for More than Gossip!

Are YOU Blurring the Boundaries of Honesty and Integrity in Your Relationships?

Recently, we added former Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger and Representative Anthony Weiner to the long and illustrious list of celebrities and politicians who have forgotten what it means to be honest and live with integrity in their personal relationships: John Edwards, Tiger Woods, Jesse James, David Letterman, South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, Nevada Senator John Ensign, Congressman Gary Condit, New York Governor Eliot Spitzer and the list goes on. And we mustn’t neglect to mention the International Monetary Fund Director, Dominique Strauss-Kahn and his alleged rape/assault on the New York Soffitel Hotel chambermaid.

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About Having Needs and Getting Them Met By Others

It is our personal responsibility to become mindful and stay mindful of our own needs and wants as well as the needs and wants of our partners, children and others in our family and social systems.

I think most of us are better at keeping track of what others need and want than we are staying current with our own needs and ourselves.

  • Are you comfortable with the notion that it is your right to have needs and that you cannot meet all your needs?
  • Are you clear about some or many of your current needs? Do you recognize your needs and respect them?
  • Do you have a good understanding of which needs you can meet and which needs can/must be met by others?
  • Do you agree, at least in concept, that it is acceptable and, in fact, reasonable to ask others to meet some of your needs?
  • How able and willing are you to honor your needs and ask others to help you meet your needs?

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Dr Jackie Black Newsletter

Hello. I am Dr. Jackie Black, your Couples in Trouble Expert. Since 1999, I have guided many formerly frustrated and desperately unhappy Couples in Trouble to happiness, closeness and having more fun together than they ever imagined. My years of experience combined with your commitment to your personal growth will enable you to welcome the results you have always wanted and never believed were possible in your marriage.

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