Monthly Archives: August 2011

Illness–A Family’s Response

When a family member becomes ill, whether for a week, for a few months, or with a long-term or terminal illness, each individual has a reaction and the entire family unit has a reaction.

Frequently I am asked by family members and by those who are ill, how to talk to others in the family. Illness deeply affects everyone in the family in many ways.

“Role reorganization” is a healthy process that a family undergoes in response to the illness or death of one of its members. If we think about the family being a system for a moment, the entire system is thrown into disequilibria.

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Do You Know When to Stop Dating Someone?

If you date men or women long past the point when you are still exploring whether or not s/he is your ideal match, take heart!  You are in the vast majority of people around the world.  This phenomenon is not regional, generational, or related to education, or socioeconomic circumstances.

Being willing or able to recognize that someone is a good match or not a good match for you, and stop dating him or her, seems to be a universal dilemma.

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Enriching Your Life by Creating Rituals and Celebrations

“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.”  —Margaret Young

We live in a contemporary society that values high-tech, the faster the better, and product stream; how fast can I make my widget? How many can I sell? How much can I sell them for?

It’s time to stop, look and listen:

  • Stop doing and start being
  • Look inside instead of outside of ourselves
  • Listen to our inner voices in addition to our “heads”

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Making Sense of the Dating Process

Dating is a process with a beginning, a middle and an end.  Very importantly, the process is different depending on why you are dating.

If you are Dating to Find Your Ideal Partner, be crystal clear about it; the more you know what you want the more likely you will be successful finding your ideal partner.

If you are Dating For Friendship or to Create Social Opportunities take the time to find the right words to let the men or women you are dating know that is why you are dating; be clear about not being ready for a committed relationship.

Be a good observer of your feelings and behavior.  Be willing to let the people you date experience you, in the places in which you are the most comfortable doing the things that you most love to do.

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Join Dr. Jackie for *More Than Gossip—Agreement IS Sexy*

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Life, Love and Relationship Experts Dr. Jackie Black, Dr. Dar (Darshana Hawks), Christine Laureano and Lori Rubenstein present More than Gossip!

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  • How to get to YES!
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  • Crafting Elegant Agreements in Love Relationships
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