Monthly Archives: January 2012

You Take Your Values With You Everywhere!

Where did you get your needs and values?

We all have many needs and values, but everyone is different and your values may be different to those of other people around you. That doesn’t make them wrong, just different. Most of our needs and values are acquired as we grow up and reflect those of the people closest to us during that period. However, our experiences also form strong values as we make judgments about what is important to us.

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I Can’t Believe I am Dating… A-G-A-I-N!

Can we talk?  About this phenomenon called dating, I mean.  Because many contemporary women are less than honest with themselves; and many are even less honest than that with each other.

How you came to be where you are is less important at this point than recognizing and fully, consciously embracing that you are here; alone; maybe lonely maybe not; relying on yourself; stretching and growing in new ways and more deeply every day; and choosing, with deliberate intention, to be in charge of designing and managing the rest of your life.

So what’s your story?

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Steps to Get Your Spouse Back into the Workforce

In these uncertain economic times, more and more husbands and wives find themselves having the, “Should I return to work?” or, “Should you return to work?” conversation.

Serious times call for serious choices and decisions. While many couples are willing to make the tough choice to get back into the workforce, they have no idea where to start.  And most will start the process filled with fear, resentment and desperation.

You can make this a more rewarding process for your spouse by understanding four important realities:  the decision to return to work is unexpected and perhaps unwelcome; might trigger some feelings of guilt or failure; might trigger some feelings of anger or resentment and can feel like a significant loss; grieving and sadness are normal and natural reactions.

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5 Areas of Readiness for Successful Committed Relationships

Your life will not be “better” if you are in a relationship.  We take ourselves with us wherever we go…especially into love relationships.

A successful, committed relationship depends upon being ready:

  1. Physically
  2. Emotionally
  3. Financially
  4. Legally
  5. Spiritually

…for the life and relationship that you want.  Get your personal work done first!

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Invitation to Take Stock and Design Your Life

It’s hard to believe that 2011 is over and 2012 is here.

The beginning of the year is a good time to take stock; to examine where we’ve been; where we are now; and where we want to go this year.

I encourage you to spend some time reflecting on the various aspects of your life.

  • What accomplishment are you very proud of?
  • What goal did you have that wasn’t realized?
  • Did you experience any losses or disappointments? Have you spent time grieving the hurt associated with the loss or disappointment?
  • Anything unexpected happen? Have you expressed your gratitude?
  • Is there a task or an endeavor that is incomplete that you want to complete or bring closure to this year?
  • Do you still need or want to do or say something to someone?
  • Do you have a dream for 2012? And a plan to make it a reality?

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