Monthly Archives: February 2012

Thoughts Driven by Values and Fueled by Emotions Transform into Actions

This might surprise you, but values, NOT feelings, drive your choices and behavior. Whatever your thoughts or dreams and whatever actions you take on your own behalf, honor your values and make them real in the world through your behavior (taking action):

  • BE your best and most brilliant and passionate YOU;
  • DO that which affirms and esteems YOU; and
  • HAVE all that BEING and DOING brings into your life.

In addition to the principle of “Be, Do and Have,” let’s add the concept of “Being Congruent”: THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, ACTIONS, and BELIEFS all matching.

Whenever your thoughts, feelings, actions and beliefs don’t all match each other, your personal YOU is out of integrity. When you are out of integrity nothing (and no one) will bring you joy and the deep satisfaction you long for!

There is no feeling in the world quite like the profound contentment that comes from being congruent. Everything that has gone before it pales into insignificance beside it.

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Breaking Out IS Breaking Through!

I like to think of Breaking Out as Breaking Through!

Breaking out means creating breakthroughs!

Breakthroughs are the result of focused thinking, deliberate intention, and taking action.

Before we break out of the limits and structures that don’t match our best and most brilliant and passionate Self, we have to understand what the alternatives are and how to achieve them.

Let’s examine the “how-to” so you can break out of limiting thinking and limiting beliefs; turn your thoughts into action; and generate your break through!

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Valentine’s Day—It’s a Wake-up Call!

Coffee for Love

It’s Valentine’s Day again!  Let Valentine’s Day this year be the bell of awareness ringing in your ear, reminding you to carve out the time to connect with the one who stole your heart.  Retailers and Madison Avenue would like us to all rush out and buy chocolate; flowers, mushy cards and teddy bears.  But consider this instead:

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Valentine’s Day Balance Sheet

Interlaced love hearts

Relationships are like bank accounts.  If you keep pulling money out without making deposits you will go bankrupt.  What does the balance sheet of your love life look like?

You know, relationships are living breathing entities.  Our investment of deliberate intention, and focused time, energy and attention is the order of the day.  Your relationship can’t wait until it is convenient for you; or until you have finished everything on your to-do list; or until you are at leisure.

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Introducing Guest Blogger, Lubov Skurina

It is my pleasure to introduce Lubov Skurina as Ask Dr. Jackie’s second guest blogger. I hope you enjoy her thoughts on main reasons you attract unavailable men

Lubov Skurina is a transformative relationship coach; founder of My Time to Be Loved, and the creator of Soulmate Attraction System™. She specializes in helping single women attract their ideal life partner by transforming their core beliefs and reclaiming their authentic ability to give and receive love.

Lobov is offering a webinar on Monday, February 13: Soulmate Attraction for a Busy Woman.

In this webinar you will discover why you might be experiencing negative relationship patterns and some ways to change them. Lubov will share the steps to take to attract a completely different relationship into your life.


Fear of Intimacy: 3 Main Reasons
You Attract Unavailable Men

Why does it happen that you can’t cross a certain barrier in a relationship? On the surface everything looks fine: you have mutual interests, you like each other, you may or may not be physically intimate, but you are “together.” Yet something is missing. There is no real connection. It feels more like “spending time together” vs. really being together. This may last for years. You may be exclusive but you don’t feel that you really “belong” to him, or he really “belongs” to you. He won’t commit. The relationship is going nowhere.

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