Monthly Archives: October 2012

Simple Romance Rituals To Keep The Divorce Gremlin Away

…another in the series of Gardening Tips for Couples

“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.” —Margaret Young

We live in a contemporary society that values high-tech, the faster the better, and product stream; how fast can I make my widget? How many can I sell? How much can I sell them for?

It’s time to stop, look and listen:

  • Stop doing and start being
  • Look inside instead of outside of yourself
  • Listen to your inner voices in addition to your “head”

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The Power of Apology

…another in the series of Gardening Tips for Couples

It is highly likely that in the course of relationships with associates, friends, family members and your significant other you will do or say something or not do or say something that will cause someone hurt.

Reacting to the words and actions of others is normal, natural and necessary when we are involved and invested in a relationship with another, regardless of the nature or structure of that relationship.

For the purpose of this Post I want to focus on The Power of Apology for committed couples. That said, everything I am about to offer can be widely used and applied with all different kinds of relationships and with all different kinds of people!

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Treat Your Partner’s Feelings As If They Are Your Own

…another in the series of Gardening Tips for Couples!

For human beings in personal relationships, your feelings let you know how things are going for you inside yourself.

Feelings exist because they do, in and of themselves; and they are indicators of how to tend to your relationship.

I want to focus on an essential relationship behavior that you and your partner will want to practice, become good at and use frequently with each other:

…Treat your partner’s feelings as if they are your own!

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Romance is Like Gardening

So often couples call and say…

“…My husband and I love each other and are very invested and committed in our relationship to each other and our kids. We go out on dates once a week; but our sexual/sensual relationship no longer exists…”

Or, “…My wife and I are wonderful companions and best friends but we’re not in love with each other anymore…”

Or, “…Do sexual feelings ever come back once they are lost?”

I believe that loving, feeling loved and being in love are terribly misunderstood concepts that lead couples to false expectations and assumptions about each other and their relationship.

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Acceptable Etiquette to Internet Dating

Internet dating is becoming more popular among singles of all ages throughout the world. There is a disturbing attitude among some Internet daters that courtesy, integrity and honor don’t apply on “the net.”

Here are some thoughts about common sense, courteous behaviors otherwise known as etiquette:

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