Monthly Archives: April 2013

Spring Cleaning of Your Mind, Body and Soul

It’s that time of year again!  Spring cleaning is the annual ritual of cleaning a house from top to bottom in the first warm days of the year—typically in the spring.  Historically this was done in the spring as the cold weather was giving way to warmer temperatures, because, it was widely held, houses are more difficult to clean during winter.

The origins of spring cleaning probably date back to the Iranian Norouz, the Persian new year, which falls on the first day of spring.  Iranians continue the practice of “khooneh takouni” which literally means “shaking the house” just before the new year. Everything in the house is thoroughly cleaned, from the drapes to the furniture.

Another possible origin of spring cleaning can be traced to the ancient Jewish practice of thoroughly cleansing the home in anticipation of the spring-time holiday of Passover. Observant Jews conduct a thorough cleaning of the house, followed by the traditional Passover festivities.

In Greece and other Orthodox nations, it is tradition to clean the house thoroughly either right before or during the first week of Great Lent, which is referred to as Clean Week.

During this spring cleaning season, I invite you to join me and check out what’s dusty, out-dated, or has been over-looked within yourself. Let’s take a trip into your inner attic or basement; look around and decide what should be cleaned up, put away or tossed into the trash altogether.

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Say Goodbye as Soon as You Know

How many people do you know who can not tell someone they are dating that they do not want to see them any more?


How many couples do you know who continue to date, are not making a commitment and one or both of them are miserable being together?


Why do you suppose that intelligent, capable and otherwise successful men and women do not tell the truth when they no longer want to spend time together and build a life with another person?


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Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say

Most of us know how to speak. Many of us have never learned how to communicate.

  1. To communicate clearly and effectively you must understand there are two sides to every communication – the one who sends the communication and the one who receives it.


  2. Likewise, there are two methods of communication – verbal and non-verbal communication.  Don’t forget – just because you may not be speaking, doesn’t mean you are not saying something.  Often, not saying something can be more important than saying something.   Continue reading

Discover the Languages of Love—Free TeleSummit

I wanted to let you know about a TeleSummit I am participating in and invite you to participate.

Paula Smith, MDiv., MFT, who is a Certified Imago Therapist & Marriage and Family Therapist, will be hosting Discover the Languages of Love–a F*REE TeleSummit that focuses on supporting couples to learn practical skills and shift your relationship into a more compassionate and caring direction. 21 experts will all be offering their special recipe to support you to co-create your successful committed relationship!

Discover the Languages of Love TeleSummit is completely F*REE! It begins on April 27 and runs through May 06. Every day for ten days, several interviews with world-renowned relationship experts will be made available to you absolutely free (for 72-hours after each interview!). You will get an email before each expert interview with all your login instructions.

If you think there might be something valuable for you or if you know you are interested in getting solid information and advice from top experts in the field, please enroll today.


Here is a small sample of the amazing experts who will be a part of this series:

Dr. Pat Love is a distinguished professor, trainer, workshop presenter in Imagotherapy and author of the ever popular books The TruthAbout Love, Hot Monogamy and How to Improve Your Relationship Without Talking About It.

Dr. Pepper Schwartz is a renowned professor of Sociology and Sexology. She is the author of 16 books, including The Great Sex Weekend, and The Lifetime Love and Sex Quiz Book.

Dr. Bonna Devora Haberman is a professor and co-Directs the Israeli-Palestinian YTheatre Project which engages internationals together in a creative process of empowerment and responsibility for civil society, building relationships that heighten confidence and active will to contribute toward making peace more possible.

Dr. Maureen Brine is a Canadian Psychotherapist and Internationally Certified Alcohol & Drug Counselor. She is currently launching an Imago Workshop called “Recovering Our Connection” a workshop for couples in recovery.

And, of course, me.


All the experts will be sharing the best of the best strategies and processes we know to help you create the love life you want and deserve.

If you think this would be valuable for folks in your networks or communities, please help us help lots of people by telling your friends and family about this TeleSummit. Talk about it on your Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and on your blog if you have one. Please be sure to include this link:

After you register, keep an eye out for Paula’s emails with specific details for accessing the interviews.

I hope you are richly served by participating in this Discover the Languages of Love TeleSummit!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!


P.S. Note, these presenter interviews will be recorded and will be available at no charge after each show for a limited time so you won’t miss a thing. Paula will send you the web address of each replay recording as soon as it’s posted on their website.

Check out Discover the Languages of Love TeleSummit now, and sign up while it’s fresh on your mind…


10 Tips For Safe Internet Dating

Being safe and staying safe is your number one job! You are meeting complete strangers and unfortunately, some people are not who they represent themselves to be.

You must be conscious, alert and pro-active at all times. Here are my Top 10 Tips For Staying Safe when you date on the Net.

  1. Get a completely new web e-mail account on or just for dating. Do not use your existing email account because doing so could allow someone to trace you if they wanted to find out who and where you are. Yahoo and Hotmail do not require complete personal information to set up accounts. Continue reading
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