Monthly Archives: May 2013

Understanding the Process of Grieving

Grief is the reaction to a loss event. What do I mean by loss event? Well, loss isn’t only death of a loved one.  Loss events include:

Family Loss Events:

  • Death of a Loved One
  • Miscarriage
  • Infertility
  • Children with Special Needs
  • Aging Parents/Grandparents
  • Adoption
  • Blended/Step-families

Relationship Loss Events:

  • Divorce
  • Break-up
  • Separation

Personal Loss Events:

  • Moving
  • Immigration
  • Loss of Hopes and Dreams
  • Loss of Safety and Security (emotional, physical, financial)
  • Death of a Pet

Health Loss Events:

  • Life-threatening or Chronic Illness (yourself and loved ones)
  • Injury (yourself and loved ones)

Career Loss Events:

  • Fired from Job
  • Career Change
  • Retirement
  • Losses From Natural and Other Disasters

What do we lose?

Many lose loved ones, friends and co-workers in death; Others lose robust good health and face the long process of recovery; Some lose their assumptions of safety and security; the familiarity of our routines; the belief that, for the most part, they could control events in their lives. Some lose the hopes and dreams of the future. Many people lose their homes, personal possessions that held deep meaning, and a sense of order in their lives during natural disasters. Some lose their jobs, their sense of personal empowerment, their money for retirement, and their expectations of the future they crafted very carefully.

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Love Relationships: 5 Easy Steps to Forever

What do you mean when you refer to a “relationship”?  Do you know the differences between a dating relationship, a pre-committed relationship and a committed relationship?

The difference has to do with the nature and structure of the relationship.

The nature and structure of a committed, love relationship is related to the agreements and commitments each partner makes to the relationship…not to each other…to the relationship!  Agreements and commitments are actually behaviors driven by values that serve to support the structure.

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Living A Life in Alignment

We create our life and our love life through our beliefs, intentions, and the actions we take in the world.

Every one of us has an inner guidance system that drives us and guides our choice-making whether we are aware of it or not. Our system includes:

–A “vision” of what we want our life to be
–Values that are the structure of our life
–A “life purpose” that is our reason for being

A love relationship is most fulfilling and satisfying when it is in alignment with our vision, values and life purpose.

When you think of your “vision,” think of your personal world of family and friends, your community, work and colleagues…everything in the world that touches you in some way every day and how you want that to be.

Consider that to value something is to esteem it to be of worth. Your values drive your choices and actions. Your values are who you are, what you do, and how you express yourself. When you live through your values, you make decisions and choices that honor those values without regard for your desires, thoughts or fears, and your life has meaning.

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Touched by The Heart of A Woman

Mothers have been recognized in special ways for thousands of years, since Ancient Greece.

The month of May is the month that people in many parts of the world specifically celebrate Mothers.

As a tribute to women all across the globe, I am re-printing this wonderful and heart-warming poem written by Bonnie Ross-Parker. Ms. Ross-Parker’s contact information is at the end of this poem if you wish to contact her directly.

“The heart of a woman is as big as life.  She initiates conversations with strangers in the bathroom. She recommends the perfect place to find the perfect dress to a woman she meets at the beauty salon.  She clips coupons to send to her daughter-in-law.  She smiles when she would rather scream, cries when she is happy, and often says “yes” when she means “no.”

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