Monthly Archives: September 2013

Take Time for Little Things that Still Mean a Lot

Over the last decade or so ‘life’ seems to have gotten busier and more rushed.

People are over-extended and over-committed, and trying to meet multiple deadlines and address often conflicting priorities. Travel is easier and more affordable. Leisure time options are more plentiful. For many reasons most of us are on the go…doing, doing, doing!

And children all over the world seem to be over-stimulated and over-scheduled. There is hardly any time to day-dream or lay in the grass and watch the clouds move overhead anymore!

That’s why it is more important than ever to carve out precious moments to “do the little things” for the people who mean a lot to us and to let them know how much they matter.

Beyond cards, flowers, expensive jewels and surprise trips to exotic places, there are so many tiny ways we can say, “I love you,” “I am so glad you are in my life,” “I am so much richer because I am here with you.”

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A Personal Invitation to Make Your Marriage Hot & Happy

Today I am excited to announce a FREE TeleSummit I am participating in, and invite you to enroll.

The Make Your Marriage Hot and Happy is a TeleSummit that focuses on supporting couples to learn what you need to know to have a Rock Solid Marriage that Lasts.

24 experts (or more…experts are still joining the roster as I am writing this) will share their secrets on how you can have a real-life, Hot and Happy Marriage no matter what else is going on in your life!

The Make Your Marriage Hot and Happy E-Summit will be hosted by Carmen Smith.

This E-Summit is completely FREE! It begins on Sunday, September 29, and runs through October 14. Every day two interviews with world-renowned relationship experts will be made available to you absolutely free.

Interviews will be available to listen to at 6:30 am & 6:30 pm (Pacific).  If you’re unsure of your time zone, click here for the converter.

Every day you will get an email before each expert interview with all your log-in instructions. That email will also include information about the speaker who will be interviewed, the link for the interview and the link to that speaker’s FREE Gift.

These interviews will provide solid and user-friendly information that you can begin using immediately.

If you think there might be something valuable for you or if you know you are interested in getting solid information and advice from top experts in the field, please enroll today.

Here is a small sample of the amazing experts who will be a part of this series:

  • Dr. John Gray (Author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)
  • Dr. Jen Landa (From the Dr. Oz Show)
  • Sheila Wray-Gregoire (Her Blog is one of the top 25 marriage blogs)
  • Maggie Reyes (From The Happy Wife Club)
  • Mira Kelley (Works with Wayne Dyer)
  • Dr. Glenn & Gwen Pickering (Authors of TAG – a relationship communication book)
  • Scot & Emily McKay (Award winning Authors and top relationship bloggers)
  • Ande Lyons (The After Dark Radio Show)

And of course, me! My interview can be heard on Tuesday, October 08 at 6:30 pm Pacific!

All the experts will be sharing the best of the best strategies, tools and processes we know to help you create the love life you want and deserve.

If you think this would be valuable for folks in your networks or communities please help us help lots of people by telling your friends and family about this TeleSummit. Talk about it on your Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and on your blog if you have one.

Please be sure to include this link:

After you register, keep an eye out for Carmen’s emails with specific details for accessing all the expert interviews.

I hope you are richly served by participating in The Make Your Marriage Hot and Happy TeleSummit!






Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Check out The Make Your Marriage Hot and Happy TeleSummit now, and sign up while it’s fresh on your mind…


Committed Couples: Keep That Spark Alive!

If you are in the majority of contemporary committed couples, I’ll bet, if you thought about it for a moment, you would discover that you spend more time each week watching television or commuting to work than you do alone with your honey!

In our demanding world filled with multiple priorities, responsibilities and distractions, everything and everyone else seems to be more important than attending to our most intimate and special relationship.

I think you’d agree that to keep that spark alive, you and your beloved must spend quality, eyeball-to-eyeball time together.

Do you and your sweetheart carve out quality, alone-time every week? Do you both take responsibility for it, or does the task fall to one or the other of you? Do one or both of you allow “real” interruptions to get in the way or spoil your planned time together?

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Are You Too Busy to Preserve the Intimacy?

Intimacy isn’t an automatic response. Intimacy isn’t a given because you love someone or feel loved by someone. Intimacy doesn’t come with a commitment or with a marriage license. The basic, fundamental element of intimacy is cherishing each other!

Creating, nurturing and maintaining intimacy in long-term, committed relationships is the toughest and the most worthwhile undertaking one can accomplish.

It requires intention, deliberate choice and deliberate action. Nothing about creating intimacy and truly being intimate with another person is unconscious. Closeness is enhanced through purposeful sensitivity, tenderness and respect for each other.

Intimacy is the result of celebrating each other; celebrating each other’s presence and celebrating being in each other’s presence!

  • Be appreciative
  • Offer acknowledgement
  • Give the benefit of the doubt
  • Be the most ardent cheerleader
  • Be an enthusiastic supporter
  • Applaud your partner’s efforts
  • Extol his or her virtues
  • Be generous of spirit and open-hearted
  • Always remember to be encouraging

Be intentional. Be certain that your deliberate choice and deliberate action send the unmistakable message that you are happy to be with him or her and that your life is better and richer with him or her than it could ever be alone. Take the time to truly develop, take care of and preserve the intimacy of your relationship, and you will enjoy the warmth and tenderness of the relationship you want and deserve.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!


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A Few Thoughts about the Value of Communicating Well

Why is communication important in a relationship? Is it the most important part of a relationship?

First let’s agree that when we use the word communication we are referring to verbal and non-verbal communication.

Verbal and non-verbal language is an essential element for committed relationships, friendships, business relationship and virtually all other kinds of relationships. We depend on making ourselves understood to convey our wants and needs, likes and dislikes, thoughts and feelings, and to make requests of others.

We communicate non-verbally with our faces and our bodies. For example, when we are listening, we might tilt our heads a bit or lean forward toward the speaker. The speaker would likely perceive us to be interested, and listening attentively.

Conversely, if we fidget, sigh, roll our eyes, make any of a number of faces with our mouths and lips (you know what I mean!), we could be accurately perceived by the speaker to be in disagreement, contemptuous, critical, disapproving, etc.

We communicate verbally with the words we choose, with inflection, pitch, decibel level, and cadence. And make no mistake, a speaker’s attitude comes across loud and clear when she or he speaks.

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