Monthly Archives: April 2016

There Can Never Be Too Many Loving Words and Actions

One of the Relationship Success Skills that is valuable to remember is to be sure that your words and your actions send the unmistakable message that you care, and that your partner is special and important to you!

Even if you are absolutely certain that your partner knows how you feel and knows that he or she is deeply loved, there is no substitute for using your words and your actions to drive the message home.

You might be a person who is uncomfortable saying mushy things, or it might feel risky to show your vulnerability and act lovey and sweet.

I hear you!

I invite you to stretch beyond your comfort zone and, with deliberate intention, use your words and your actions to send the message that conveys your love and appreciation to your partner.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!


Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC ~

All About Being Congruent

Good communication is telling your personal truth about YOU to others, and being congruent within yourself.

Being congruent within yourself means:

  • Valuing yourself
  • Taking ownership of your thoughts and feelings; and your resources and choices
  • Honoring and expressing your deepest knowing about yourself
  • Being sure that what you say and how you say it match what you are feeling

Fully understanding the concept of being congruent is essential to all of us in our commitment to being our best and doing our best! I am very pleased to take this opportunity to deepen the meaning of being congruent for all of us.

Being congruent really means…

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Make Time For Romance

You may be surprised to hear this: Romance is not spontaneous! Romance is planned. It is birthed from your deliberate intention to create those special moments with your partner.

Is it time to strengthen your romance muscles?

Try taking turns planning a romantic meal, or a romantic walk or watching a sunrise or sunset.

Romance, intimacy and sex are not the same thing. Or are they?

Is romance the same for men as it is for women? Do you know what it is for you? For your partner? Sounds like a great place to start making time for it.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!


Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC ~

Celebrate! Celebrate! Celebrate!

There is no such thing as too much celebrating; and you don’t need a momentous occasion to celebrate.

The art of celebrating is an advanced Relationship Success Skill.

Think of celebrating as the life-blood of your marriage. It is so important to get your relationship energy out of the transaction-based energy and back to the experience-based energy. Experience-based energy is engaging, enlivening, and enjoyable; and celebrating is the path that will lead you there.

What will you do today to celebrate your marriage and your partner?

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC ~

Building a Healthy Relationship That Will Last

One of the most frequently asked questions I hear is, “How do I choose the right mate and build a healthy, loving and lasting relationship?”

Most of us find ourselves without personal experience or good models of healthy relationships and we feel inadequate or unsure about how to build a healthy, lasting committed relationship.

In building a healthy relationship…

  • Each partner values the open sharing of thoughts and feelings.
  • There is a routine or regularity to events.
  • Conflict occurs and each partner works to resolve disagreements, upsets and hurts by talking it out together.
  • Partners communicate clearly; they say what they mean and mean what they say.
  • Partners care about each other and how they feel; they are responsive to the feelings and needs of each other.
  • Each partner sets boundaries, both physically and emotionally.
  • Each partner interacts with and is involved in the larger world.

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