The Secret about Your Family’s Imprint on Your Beliefs and Attitudes
We are imprinted, positively and negatively, by the beliefs, attitudes, values and behaviors of those in our families.
For thousands of years people have passed along their wisdom and knowledge and built on the past and moved forward into the future telling each other stories.
Storytelling helps us make sense of our early life and family life, and often provides essential clues about the values, behaviors, attitudes and beliefs that we have embraced and live by, or have rejected and replaced.
Part of learning to tell and write our stories, is recognizing the themes and patterns of family beliefs, attitudes, values and behaviors.
Does your family have a mythology about children, elders, illness, money, expressing emotion, career etc., to which everyone subscribes?
7 Simple Tips to Effective Communication
“Why is communication important in a relationship? Is it the most important part of a relationship?”
First let’s agree that when we use the word communication we are referring to verbal and non-verbal communication.
Verbal and non-verbal language is an essential element for committed relationships, friendships, business relationship and virtually all other kinds of relationships. We depend on making ourselves understood to convey our wants and needs, likes and dislikes, thoughts and feelings, and to make requests of others.
Breaking Out IS Breaking Through!
I like to think of Breaking Out as Breaking Through!
Breaking out means creating breakthroughs!
Breakthroughs are the result of focused thinking, deliberate intention, and taking action.
Before we break out of the limits and structures that don’t match our best and most brilliant and passionate Self, we have to understand what the alternatives are and how to achieve them.
Let’s examine the “how-to” so you can break out of limiting thinking and limiting beliefs; turn your thoughts into action; and generate your break through!
The End of a Relationship Can Be a Terrible Loss
Breaking up, getting divorced and the death of your partner are among the biggest loss events in life.
There are three important things to remember:
- Grief is the reaction to a loss event
- Grieving is the normal, natural, and necessary process that restores us to wholeness
- Grieving is a wholly feeling experience
Grieving is as unique as your fingerprints. No two people will react to the same loss event in the same way and no two people will grieve the same way.
The cognitive or thinking part of self is not the grieving part of self. Think of your personal energy as being 100%. In a perfect world, 50% of your personal energy is your outside self and 50% of your personal energy is your inside self.
Illness–A Family’s Response
When a family member becomes ill, whether for a week, for a few months, or with a long-term or terminal illness, each individual has a reaction and the entire family unit has a reaction.
Frequently I am asked by family members and by those who are ill, how to talk to others in the family. Illness deeply affects everyone in the family in many ways.
“Role reorganization” is a healthy process that a family undergoes in response to the illness or death of one of its members. If we think about the family being a system for a moment, the entire system is thrown into disequilibria.
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