Are You Too Busy To Preserve the Intimacy?

Intimacy isn’t an automatic response.

Intimacy isn’t a given because you love someone or feel loved by someone.

Intimacy doesn’t come with a commitment or with a marriage license.

The basic, fundamental element of intimacy is cherishing each other!

Creating, nurturing and maintaining intimacy in long-term, committed relationships is the toughest and the most worthwhile undertaking one can accomplish.

It requires intention, deliberate choice and deliberate action. Nothing about creating intimacy and truly being intimate with another person is unconscious.

Intimacy is the result of celebrating each other; celebrating each other’s presence and celebrating being in each other’s presence!

Be appreciative.

Offer acknowledgement.

Give the benefit of the doubt.

Be the most ardent cheerleader.

Be an enthusiastic supporter.

Applaud your partner’s efforts.

Extol his or her virtues.

Be generous of spirit and open hearted.

Always remember to be encouraging.

Be intentional. Be certain that your deliberate choice and deliberate action send the unmistakable message that you are happy to be with him and that your life is better and richer with her than it could ever be alone.

Until next time remember…

Only YOU can make it Happen!

Dr Jackie Black Newsletter

Hello. I am Dr. Jackie Black, your Couples in Trouble Expert. Since 1999, I have guided many formerly frustrated and desperately unhappy Couples in Trouble to happiness, closeness and having more fun together than they ever imagined. My years of experience combined with your commitment to your personal growth will enable you to welcome the results you have always wanted and never believed were possible in your marriage.

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