Ask Dr. Jackie:

Can you please help me with my situation? I started talking to a guy over the phone from an online dating site. We both are from India and he is settled abroad. We are interested in each other. He is consistently calling me for over two months and never indicates when exactly he would meet me as it is not so sure he would visit our country in the next six months. The point is I am exhausted talking with him daily without knowing how long to wait before we meet. I cannot simply keep talking for over six months before we meet–can you please help?

Dr. Jackie Answers:

I agree with you, you can’t simply keep talking for many months before you meet, and there are no guarantees that you’ll ever meet!

From what you report, this guy has no intention of flying to India to meet you. He is wasting your time. Say "Goodbye" and end all contact.

You have no idea who he really is. You can only know what he says and observe how he behaves.

His actions and his words do not match! His actions are saying quite clearly that he has no interest in you!

Tell him it was nice to meet him; that it is clear he is not interested in coming to India to meet you–which is okay with you, and wish him well in his life.

There is no need to be rude or mean. Simply set a boundary and move on.

Understand that you will meet and perhaps date many men who are NOT a good match for you. Expect that, and say Goodbye as soon as you know they are not a good match for you.

I hope this helps.

I wish you all the best!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

 

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