Why Are Boundaries Important?

If your life is filled with discord and you don’t feel that others respect you, it's time to set your boundaries. Each of us experiences our reality in four ways: Body - what we look like Thinking - how we give meaning to incoming data Feelings - our emotional...

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Steps Toward a Rich and Meaningful Life

I received the “Instructions For Life” by the Dali Lama in an email from a very dear friend. Whether or not you embrace the teachings of the Dali Lama, these “Instructions For Life” seem very universal to me; and something we can all benefit from by being reminded...

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How to Receive an Apology

For most of us, it is equally difficult and uncomfortable to receive an apology as to offer an apology! Offering and receiving apologies is an art and requires learning a few simple skills and practicing those skills often. Here Are 8 Easy Steps to Receiving an...

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How to Offer an Apology

For most of us, offering an apology feels awkward or uncomfortable. For one thing, we don't have a lot of practice. For another thing, the concept of apologizing is often associated with being "bad" or "wrong." Consider thinking about an apology as a behavior that...

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When to Apologize

If your partner is hurt or offended by something you said or didn’t say, or did or didn’t do, his or her upset is not an indictment of you. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person. It doesn’t even mean you did something bad or wrong. In fact, it may not mean anything at...

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What is an Apology?

It is highly likely that in the course of relationships with associates, friends, family members and your partner you will do or say something or not do or say something that will cause someone hurt. Reacting to the words and actions of others is normal, natural and...

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Illness–A Family’s Response

When a family member becomes ill, whether for a week, for a few months, or with a life-threatening or chronic illness, each individual has a reaction and the entire family unit has a reaction. I am asked by family members and by those who are ill, how to talk to...

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Stop! Your Boundary Hurts Me

Sometimes in a relationship there is a sticky dynamic where one party tries to set a boundary that is comfortable for them, but it feels exclusionary to the other person. As if they are being shut out or exiled. This can feel painful for the person who feels shut out....

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What Do You Mean You Need Space?

Has anyone ever told you she or he needed “some space”? All too often men and women are threatened by their partners needing or wanting “space”—an opportunity to enjoy solitude. They somehow feel that if their partners really loved them they wouldn’t want to be apart...

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The Power of Apology

...another in the series of Gardening Tips for Couples It is highly likely that in the course of relationships with associates, friends, family members and your significant other you will do or say something or not do or say something that will cause someone hurt....

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Romance Is Like Gardening

So often couples call and say “…My husband and I love each other and are very invested and committed in our relationship to each other and our kids. We go out on dates once a week; but our sexual/sensual relationship no longer exists…” Or, “…My wife and I are...

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Does Too Much Sex Drive You Apart?

Below is a scenario that was presented during a call-in question and answer period on one of my radio interviews. I'm sure this isn't the only couple with this question; so I thought I would share my answer in an article. Ask Dr. Jackie: My wife and I have been...

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Declare June Marriage Renewal Month

"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need...

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