Mature men and women who are dating have many questions about money. The most frequent question from men is how to avoid always picking up the tab.

There are four easy steps to learn and follow:

Step 1:

First determine the occasions that you can imagine choosing to "pick up the tab.”

Step 2:

Recognize that it is important to address this issue at the time you ask someone for the date.

Step 3:

Develop phrases that sound like you and accurately convey what you mean to say.

Step 4:

It is perfectly acceptable to say that something is too expensive for you at this time or to suggest an alternative that is more in your price range.

When it comes to money, honesty and a forthright attitude is the best policy.  It is essential to become willing and able to discuss money and finances whenever you decide it is in your best interest to do so!

Money is on everybody’s mind anyway.  Believe it or not, most people will be relieved and appreciative.  If you run into the occasional person who is affronted or insulted, please, oh please let it be about them.  Do not take that on as being about you.

This is a skill that you can learn.  You can become fluent and comfortable talking about money.  Experiment with this a few times and let me know how it is going.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!


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