For most of us, it is equally difficult and uncomfortable to receive an apology as to offer an apology! Offering and receiving apologies is an art and requires learning a few simple skills and practicing those skills often.
Here Are *8 Easy Steps* to Receiving an Apology:
- Take a deep breath.
- Remind yourself that the person who hurt you is not the enemy.
- Remind yourself that the person who hurt you is a person you cherish and value and you know s/he wouldn’t hurt you for anything in the world.
- Remind yourself that a very common response to telling someone that they hurt you is for them to get mad at you.
- Keep breathing!
- Now repeat after meâ€¦
"I believe that s/he is sorry that what s/he said (or didn’t say) or what s/he did (or didn’t do) that made me feel like s/he doesn’t care about me.
I believe that it was not his or her intention to say or do anything that would upset me or cause me hurt.
I choose to take in my partner’s acknowledgement that something happened that hurt me.
I choose to allow this apology to begin to repair my hurt feelings.
I choose to allow this apology to soften my heart, calm my upset and cool my anger.
I choose to allow this apology to soothe the wound in my heart now."
- Then take another deep breath and be quiet.
- Allow yourself to begin to be transformed by your knowing that you are loved, respected and valued. Allow the power of apology to start the healing process.
Take a few minutes now and review the last three "posts" about Apologies. These four "posts" represent the entire "Apology Process."
Practice these skills and make it a priority to become an expert at offering and receiving/accepting apologies. It will improve your relationships and the quality of your life beyond measure!
Until next time…
Only YOU can make it Happen!