Romance Is Like Gardening

So often couples call and say “…My husband and I love each other and are very invested and committed in our relationship to each other and our kids. We go out on dates once a week; but our sexual/sensual relationship no longer exists…” Or, “…My wife and I are...

Does Too Much Sex Drive You Apart?

Below is a scenario that was presented during a call-in question and answer period on one of my radio interviews. I'm sure this isn't the only couple with this question; so I thought I would share my answer in an article. Ask Dr. Jackie: My wife and I have been...

Bride Walks Down the Aisle and Has Everyone in Tears

If ever there's a moment in a girl's life when she's guaranteed to be the center of attention, it's when she's walking down the aisle at her wedding. This bride took advantage of a captive audience to bring the house down and do something very special for her future...

Declare June Marriage Renewal Month

"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need...

What to Say to Someone Who is Grieving

What do you say to someone whose life comes crashing down around him or her; whose life, as they knew it, is forever and profoundly changed? The first thing to really recognize is that when someone experiences the death of a loved one, the loss is so pervasive, the...

Does More Time Really Equal More Fun?

Most of us have a lifetime of responding to the signals of others without regard for who we are or what we need or want. The "art of being" is the order of the day; the art of knowing and accepting yourself; living in passion and joy; embracing and valuing fun and...

Divorce is a Legitimate Choice

For many men and women in a wide variety of situations divorce is a legitimate and appropriate choice. Getting divorced is a process and consists of 3 main elements: Emotional Financial Legal Healing from divorce is not easy. It is often a long and excruciating...

Touched by The Heart of A Woman

Mothers have been recognized in special ways for thousands of years, since Ancient Greece. The month of May is the month that people in many parts of the world specifically celebrate Mothers. As a tribute to women all across the globe, I am re-printing this wonderful...

Spring Cleaning of Your Mind, Body and Soul

It's that time of year again! Spring cleaning is the annual ritual of cleaning a house from top to bottom in the first warm days of the year—typically in the spring. Historically this was done in the spring as the cold weather was giving way to warmer temperatures,...

Self-Esteem is Created Consciously with Intention

Self-esteem is a term that many people toss around, and I bet that the vast majority of you don’t really understand what in the world Self esteem really means. For a moment, I invite you to consider that Self-esteem–esteeming one’s Self–is really code for the...

Intimacy Can Be Yours—If You Act on It!

Creating, nurturing and maintaining intimacy in long-term, committed relationships requires intention, deliberate choice and deliberate action. Nothing about creating intimacy and truly being intimate with another person is unconscious. Closeness is enhanced through...

Are You Too Busy to Preserve the Intimacy?

Intimacy isn’t an automatic response. Intimacy isn’t a given because you love someone or feel loved by someone. Intimacy doesn’t come with a commitment or with a marriage license. The basic, fundamental element of intimacy is cherishing each other! Creating, nurturing...

Making Sense of the Dating Process

Dating is a process with a beginning, a middle and an end. Very importantly, the process is different depending on why you are dating. If you are Dating to Find Your Ideal Partner, be crystal clear about it; the more you know what you want the more likely you will be...

Plan to Go Places and Do Things You Enjoy

When you plan a date, plan to participate in interests and activities that you enjoy. Invite someone into your life. Be willing to let the people you date experience you, in the places in which you are the most comfortable doing the things that you most love to do....

15-Steps to Crafting Elegant & Effective Agreements

Couples join forces with one another by forming agreements. Agreements are expressed in writing or verbally during very intentional conversations. Most of us have never learned how to craft effective, explicit agreements. It is a skill we were never taught, even...

Agreements: The Road Map for Success

Effective Agreements Life is an ongoing process of creating agreements with others. An effective agreement means more than getting another person to do what you want. It means a true commitment from both people. Successful Agreements Your overall effectiveness in...

Your Life Circle—A Celebration of You

Rituals and celebrations are ways to intentionally create meaningful connections with special and important events and people. Many of us already celebrate birthdays, anniversaries and various holidays including rituals we may not even recognize as such. I invite you...

Know When to Stop Dating Someone

If you date men or women long past the point when you are still exploring whether or not she or he is your ideal match, take heart! You are in the vast majority of people around the world. This phenomenon is not regional, generational, or related to education, or...

Re-energize and Celebrate Your Love!

Relationships are like bank accounts. If you keep pulling money out without making deposits you will go bankrupt. What does the balance sheet of your love life look like? You know, relationships are living breathing entities. Our investment of deliberate intention,...

The REAL Gift For Valentine’s Day

It’s Valentine’s Day again! Let Valentine’s Day this year be the bell of awareness ringing in your ear, reminding you to carve out the time to connect with the one who stole your heart. Retailers and Madison Avenue would like us to all rush out and buy chocolate;...

Living Single is Not a Condition to Improve

Many of us find ourselves un-partnered at various times in our lives. How do you experience being single and uninvolved? Do you worry that you are unloved, or will never find that special someone to love? Did you feel relief at the end of a marriage or relationship...

Romance Is Like Gardening

So often couples call and say “…My husband and I love each other and are very invested and committed in our relationship to each other and our kids. We go out on dates once a week; but our sexual/sensual relationship no longer exists…” Or, “…My wife and I are...

read more

Does Too Much Sex Drive You Apart?

Below is a scenario that was presented during a call-in question and answer period on one of my radio interviews. I'm sure this isn't the only couple with this question; so I thought I would share my answer in an article. Ask Dr. Jackie: My wife and I have been...

read more

Declare June Marriage Renewal Month

"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need...

read more

What to Say to Someone Who is Grieving

What do you say to someone whose life comes crashing down around him or her; whose life, as they knew it, is forever and profoundly changed? The first thing to really recognize is that when someone experiences the death of a loved one, the loss is so pervasive, the...

read more

Does More Time Really Equal More Fun?

Most of us have a lifetime of responding to the signals of others without regard for who we are or what we need or want. The "art of being" is the order of the day; the art of knowing and accepting yourself; living in passion and joy; embracing and valuing fun and...

read more

Divorce is a Legitimate Choice

For many men and women in a wide variety of situations divorce is a legitimate and appropriate choice. Getting divorced is a process and consists of 3 main elements: Emotional Financial Legal Healing from divorce is not easy. It is often a long and excruciating...

read more

Touched by The Heart of A Woman

Mothers have been recognized in special ways for thousands of years, since Ancient Greece. The month of May is the month that people in many parts of the world specifically celebrate Mothers. As a tribute to women all across the globe, I am re-printing this wonderful...

read more

Spring Cleaning of Your Mind, Body and Soul

It's that time of year again! Spring cleaning is the annual ritual of cleaning a house from top to bottom in the first warm days of the year—typically in the spring. Historically this was done in the spring as the cold weather was giving way to warmer temperatures,...

read more

Intimacy Can Be Yours—If You Act on It!

Creating, nurturing and maintaining intimacy in long-term, committed relationships requires intention, deliberate choice and deliberate action. Nothing about creating intimacy and truly being intimate with another person is unconscious. Closeness is enhanced through...

read more

Are You Too Busy to Preserve the Intimacy?

Intimacy isn’t an automatic response. Intimacy isn’t a given because you love someone or feel loved by someone. Intimacy doesn’t come with a commitment or with a marriage license. The basic, fundamental element of intimacy is cherishing each other! Creating, nurturing...

read more

Making Sense of the Dating Process

Dating is a process with a beginning, a middle and an end. Very importantly, the process is different depending on why you are dating. If you are Dating to Find Your Ideal Partner, be crystal clear about it; the more you know what you want the more likely you will be...

read more

Plan to Go Places and Do Things You Enjoy

When you plan a date, plan to participate in interests and activities that you enjoy. Invite someone into your life. Be willing to let the people you date experience you, in the places in which you are the most comfortable doing the things that you most love to do....

read more

Agreements: The Road Map for Success

Effective Agreements Life is an ongoing process of creating agreements with others. An effective agreement means more than getting another person to do what you want. It means a true commitment from both people. Successful Agreements Your overall effectiveness in...

read more

Your Life Circle—A Celebration of You

Rituals and celebrations are ways to intentionally create meaningful connections with special and important events and people. Many of us already celebrate birthdays, anniversaries and various holidays including rituals we may not even recognize as such. I invite you...

read more

Know When to Stop Dating Someone

If you date men or women long past the point when you are still exploring whether or not she or he is your ideal match, take heart! You are in the vast majority of people around the world. This phenomenon is not regional, generational, or related to education, or...

read more