Office Romances ~ Now What Do We Do?

Last week, I shared some very basic advice surrounding the office romance and how to approach the first level of personal intimacy. Now you find yourself at the threshold of taking that next step—what should you do now? What advice do you have for couples whose...

Office Romances ~ Is There a Future?

I've been asked about office romances—dating someone you work with. Here is my advice and some basic "do's" and "don'ts." Unfortunately too many office romances end in disaster! The primary reason is that neither men or women are good at setting, maintaining and...

Marriage is Like a Tabletop With Four Sturdy Legs

Coupleship is a way to perceive and structure a long-term, primary monogamous relationship. Emotionally intelligent couples have certain things in common. They are committed to mutual and reciprocal respect, encouragement and affirmation; they can easily and elegantly...

Simple Romance Rituals to Keep the Divorce Gremlin Away

...the final in a series of Gardening Tips for Couples “Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You...

The Power of Apology

...another in the series of Gardening Tips for Couples It is highly likely that in the course of relationships with associates, friends, family members and your significant other you will do or say something or not do or say something that will cause someone hurt....

Honor Your Partner’s Feelings as if They Are Your Own

...another in the series of Gardening Tips for Couples! Feelings are the barometer of your outside existential life. For human beings in personal relationships, your feelings let you know how things are going for you inside yourself. Feelings exist because they do, in...

Romance is Like Gardening

So often couples call and say… “…My husband and I love each other and are very invested and committed in our relationship to each other and our kids. We go out on dates once a week; but our sexual/sensual relationship no longer exists…” Or, “…My wife and I are...

6-Point Plan to Fanning Flames of Romance and Passion

There are many myths about sex and romance in long-term relationships. There are also some universal truths and contemporary theories that should inform your personal attitudes and behaviors, and your responsibilities and obligations to your beloved and your...

Bride Walks Down the Aisle and Has Everyone in Tears

If ever there's a moment in a girl's life when she's guaranteed to be the center of attention, it's when she's walking down the aisle at her wedding. This bride took advantage of a captive audience to bring the house down and do something very special for her future...

Declare June Marriage Renewal Month

"Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need...

The End of a Relationship Can Be a Terrible Loss

Breaking up, getting divorced and the death of your partner are among the biggest loss events in life. There are three important things to remember: Grief is the reaction to a loss event Grieving is the normal, natural, and necessary process that restores us to...

What to Say to Someone Who is Grieving

What do you say to someone whose life comes crashing down around him or her; whose life, as they knew it, is forever and profoundly changed? The first thing to really recognize is that when someone experiences the death of a loved one, the loss is so pervasive, the...

Build Your Relationship on a Sturdy Foundation

We all have a need for a certain amount of stability in our lives. You’ll find that you have four cornerstones that are the foundation on which your life is grounded. These are: 1.  Your needs and values—the external and internal structures of your life 2.  Your...

Tips for Enlightened Blended Families

Would you be surprised if I told you... One of three Americans is now a stepparent, a stepchild, a stepsibling, or some other member of a blended family. More than half of Americans today have been, are now or will eventually be in one or more step situations during...

Touched by The Heart of A Woman

Mothers have been recognized in special ways for thousands of years, since Ancient Greece. The month of May is the month that people in many parts of the world specifically celebrate Mothers. As a tribute to women all across the globe, I am re-printing this wonderful...

There Can Never Be Too Many Loving Words and Actions

One of the Relationship Success Skills that is valuable to remember is to be sure that your words and your actions send the unmistakable message that you care, and that your partner is special and important to you! Even if you are absolutely certain that your partner...

All About Being Congruent

Good communication is telling your personal truth about YOU to others, and being congruent within yourself. Being congruent within yourself means: Valuing yourself Taking ownership of your thoughts and feelings; and your resources and choices Honoring and expressing...

Make Time For Romance

You may be surprised to hear this: Romance is not spontaneous! Romance is planned. It is birthed from your deliberate intention to create those special moments with your partner. Is it time to strengthen your romance muscles? Try taking turns planning a romantic meal,...

Celebrate! Celebrate! Celebrate!

There is no such thing as too much celebrating; and you don’t need a momentous occasion to celebrate. The art of celebrating is an advanced Relationship Success Skill. Think of celebrating as the life-blood of your marriage. It is so important to get your relationship...

Building a Healthy Relationship That Will Last

One of the most frequently asked questions I hear is, "How do I choose the right mate and build a healthy, loving and lasting relationship?" Most of us find ourselves without personal experience or good models of healthy relationships and we feel inadequate or unsure...