“Taking charge” is code for the conscious knowing that we are at choice every minute!  “Taking charge” is actually our willingness and ability to honor our legitimate needs; to say our real “yes” and our real “no”; to set and maintain our boundaries; and to act on our own behalf.  We create our life and our love life through our beliefs, intentions, and the actions we take in the world.

Every one of us has an inner guidance system that drives us and guides our choice making whether we are aware of it or not. Our system includes:

  • Vision
  • Life-purpose
  • Mission
  • Needs/Values

Our life is most fulfilling and satisfying when we are in alignment with our vision and life-purpose; driven by values; on a mission. When we live from our being, we live a life in alignment with our vision, life purpose, needs/values.

What so many people forget is that lasting happiness, peace of mind, deep and joyful love, abundance, physical and emotional health are created primarily through who you are being rather than what you are doing or having.

Let’s look at each of these separate yet inter-related parts of the four corners of our inner life:

1.  Our Vision statement is our one or two sentence concept of the world we want to live in and be a part of; what we want our life to be.

When you think of your “vision”, think of your personal world of family and friends, your community, work and colleagues…everything in the world that touches you in some way every day and how you want that to be.

2.  Our Life Purpose statement is a one or a two sentence concept that defines OUR part—or THE intentions and actions that we take to create the type of world we want to live in—our reason for being.

Each one of us has a unique purpose.  We create meaningful work and a fulfilling life when we live on purpose.  When our “life purpose” is clear it guides our choices and helps us know where we are headed.  Life purpose is the big why, the ultimate reason for living and fills our life with meaning.

3.  Our Mission statement is the map or the plan that we use to carry out our purpose.

Our map or our plan is an essential element that provides the specifics; the HOW to implement that plan in our personal and professional life; the daily choices and behaviors that put into action living on purpose with vision driven by needs and values

4.  Needs/Values: the external and internal structures of our life.

Consider that to value something is to esteem it to be of worth.  Your values drive your choices and actions.  Your values are who you are, what you do, and how you express yourself.  When you live through your values, you make decisions and choices that honor those values without regard for your desires, thoughts or fears, and your life has meaning.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!


Original Content by Jackie Black, Ph.D., BCC
www.DrJackieBlack.com ~ DrJackie@DrJackieBlack.com
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